Seeking Simplicity

Simple Gifts

'Tis the gift to be simple,

'Tis the gift to be free,

'Tis the gift to come down where we ought to be,

And when we find ourselves in the place just right,

'Twill be in the valley of love and delight.

When true simplicity is gained,

To bow and to bend we shan't be ashamed,

To turn, turn will be our delight,

'Till by turning, turning we come 'round right.

I played this old Shaker tune as a prelude piece at my Aunt Patti's funeral service two days ago without knowing then that the words it contains would be the message that my Heavenly Father would have for me now as a result of my personal ponderings regarding my beloved aunt. Although the meaning of the words are clearer to me now as a result of careful thought and divine revelation, His tutorial for me (and perhaps His individual tutorials for extended family members as well) began some months ago when my aunt entered her own personal "Garden of Gethsemane".

Let me share my aunt's story and the lessons that she learned from it first. No one could say it better than my closest cousin Holly did as a eulogy at the farewell services. I will quote but a small portion of the rather extraordinary tribute she gave. . . .

Seeking Simplicity - Part 2

In the words of her daughter, Holly, let me introduce my readers to my Aunt Patti.

"It's an honor to pay tribute to my mother on behalf of my family. It's surprisingly easy for me to illustrate Mom's whimsical, enchanted, complex, and fast-moving life. ... I'll start by mentioning that no one could keep up with my mom. She awakened each day and in cheetah-like fashion, accomplishing myriads of tasks... I can't really say that Mom danced to the beat of a different drum because she expected those around her to learn her unique rhythm - which most of us did....Mom's daily itinerary was filled with more events than almost anyone could pursue.

"...Our family took numerous road trips across the country, and we rarely had a specific plan. Each trip was an adventure of impulse and freefall as we drove around and stopped at every antique store, interesting tourist stop, strangely-titled restaurant or motel along the way....We were as free as gypsies with no agenda, as we blew wherever the wind of my mom's ideas took us....

"Even though Patricia sometimes ran into trouble because she was extremely impulsive and was insistent with wild abandon, this aspect of her character is what made mom fun! Mom loved to have parties and go to parties. Mom used to say things like, 'Life is short; eat dessert first.' And we did....

"...Mom never had her IQ tested, but I know she was brilliant. I love to tell people that when she worked on her A___ G___ study for the University of Colorado she was nominated the number one interviewer in the entire country. I used to urge her on so that she didn't become complacent by saying, 'You know, Mom, you're only as good as your last interview.

"...

"Up until August 26th, 2008, Mom's life was running 'all systems go', and [while interviewing] in Laredo, TX, a town just next to the Mexican border [where she knew no one], Mom suffered two heart attacks and three strokes, all the while having pneumonia. Medically, the doctors assert that Mom should have died from this experience. But she didn't. I thank and rejoice that God not only allowed Mom to survive five separate intubations with a breathing tube, in and out of a coma, but to be able to travel back to Denver under Dan [her son] and Julie's [highly-qualified ER nurse and friend] care after seven weeks and be close to her family for almost another month of life. God had His plan, and I know Mom embraced and surrendered herself accordingly. I asked Mom what she learned from this experience, or rather odyssey, and after thinking for a long while she answered, 'I learned that I'm not in control. God is. And I also learned that I had to be stripped of everything to understand this.'"

To echo my cousin Holly's words, "What an amazing statement!" Yes, this proud woman was stripped of everything - even pride - during her seven-week hospital stay. My aunt, whose own proud mother had requested that the song "My Way" be played at her funeral (and it was, some years ago), was stripped of insisting that things be done her way. Holly referred to a favorite Bible passage at the end of the eulogy, and I believe it to be 2 Corinthians 12:9-10:

"And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong."

As Aunt Patti endured her broken and contrite state and began to surrender to the will of the Lord, she acknowledged the power of God through the many miracles that kept her alive and that came in answer to prayers, blessings, and healings; she experienced the peace and unconditional love of the Savior and that of her family. As I visited with her in the hospital, I saw faith and humility in a woman I had always loved but had never before known as a woman of God. This was a tender mercy of the Lord that prepared her and us for her imminent passing. It made possible the rejoicing of family members on both sides of the veil that a daughter of God had returned to her heavenly home.

Seeking Simplicity - Part 3

I want to share some meaningful quotes.

"I believe that among the greatest lessons we are to learn in this short sojourn upon the earth are lessons that help us distinguish between what is important and what is not....

Stresses in our lives come regardless of our circumstances. We must deal with them the best we can. But we should not let them get in the way of what is most important--and what is most important almost always involves the people around us....

Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved."

(President Thomas S. Monson, "Finding Joy in the Journey," Ensign, Nov. 2008, 85, 86)

"As men [and women] of God, we turn from excess to that which edifies, for "that which doth not edify is not of God." If dealings or involvements or pursuits or schedules detract from putting God first, we must pare back and unencumber our lives."

(Bishop Keith B. McMullin, "Lay Up in Store," Ensign, May 2007, 52.)

"We must acquire knowledge of God's eternal plan and our role in it, and then by living righteously, surrendering our will to the will of the Lord, we receive the promised blessings....In our search to obtain relief from the stresses of life, may we earnestly seek ways to simplify our lives."

(Elder L. Tom Perry, "Let Him Do It with Simplicity," Ensign, Nov. 2008, 10)

"In righteousness there is great simplicity. In every case that confronts us in life there is either a right way or a wrong way to proceed. If we choose the right way, we are sustained in our actions by the principles of righteousness, in the which there is power from the heavens. If we choose the wrong way and act on that choice, there is no such heavenly promise or power, and we are alone and are destined to fail."

(Elder William R. Bradford, "Righteousness," Ensign, Nov. 1999, 85)

Why did I post these quotes? Well, one of the things my aunt's experience of suffering impressed upon me is that if I don't choose to learn life's most important lessons willingly through the teachings of the Spirit, then I will be compelled to learn them through the School of Hard Knocks. I am reminded of a boy character in C.S. Lewis' The Voyage of the Dawn Treader, Eustace, who through his own unwise choices becomes a dragon. He views the transformation as a bondage, particularly because a bejeweled bracelet he greedily put on while yet a boy was cutting into his scaly flesh and causing great pain. The whole experience serves as a humbling tutorial that allows Eustace to see the error of his ways and to desire a change of heart. The Christ-like lion figure, Aslan, makes the change possible after several attempts on Eustace's part to free himself of his dragon-like nature. It's all very symbolic of the Atonement, but it is a most undesirable way to avail oneself of God's grace. How much better rather to choose willingly the invitation to come unto Christ betimes without having to be compelled through a long and arduous ordeal.

Seeking Simplicity - Part 4

Ryan Shupe and the RubberBand have a song I want to share with you. It's from their album entitled Dream Big and it's their song, "Simplify".
The lyrics follow:

Simplify
I say what the hey I've got bills to pay I work all day I got no time to play And what's more, knocking on my door Is the tax collector and I'm poor
See there's too many bills too many pills Too many features and too many frills No money, too many things to buy Too many ways to split the pie
I've got to simplify Simplify my life I've got to simplify Simplify
I've got to smell the flowers enjoy the ride I've got to open up my eyes and see what's outside All the things I miss each day 'Cause I'm driving in the fast lane And it's making me insane
And I don't want to be that way I want to be free today From responsibility that brings excess duress I've got to enjoy more and stress less
I've got to simplify Simplify my life I've got to simplify Simplify
That's great, I'm late I'm always in a hurry for a meeting in the state Of confusion, a delusion An illusion I've taken much too far I'm always living in the future or the past But time flies too fast I've got to make it last So enjoy, relax, chill out Just give it a try
I've got to simplify Simplify my life I've got to simplify Simplify

In the past, I've tried to reduce and simplify my life. This has been a theme of mine for years. I have been about as successful as Eustace (character in C.S. Lewis' The Voyage of the Dawn Treader) was each time he tried to peel and scratch away his dragon scales. I enjoy relief and freedom for awhile only to find that I am still a slave to my natural self. My way prevails and gets the better of me. Permanency will abound only as I yield to God's will each and every day, several times throughout the day, according to His grace. Life's a journey, a process. I will not "arrive", and I am not in charge. So, my New Year's resolution is to put God and others first and "let Him do it with simplicity", because He will if I let Him. I do not want to be compelled. I gladly choose to suffer if He wills it because I know it will help me overcome my weakness and allow His strength and power to be made manifest. I will feel His love and my own delight as I yield to His plan of happiness. I will avoid the bondage of sin as I "come down where [I ] ought to be", as I unashamedly bow and bend to His will, and as I turn, turn, and return each night on penitent knees I will "come 'round right" because He will right me simply and grace-fully.